Progress is the Key

I want this to stop guys. For most of the people reading this, this is the first decade that we were active citizens in. For me personally I was raised in 90's but I grew up in the 2000's saw many things and did a lot of ish. Thas all great and it all sounds good and blah blah blah. Here's my issue we older now and every new year i find people (myself included) sayin that the previous year wasnt theirs but of course the upcoming year "they finna shine" stop it. Stop letting the change of the calander change ur outlook on life more than likely if ur reading this u were probably on the track to ur success 2 years ago so the fact that the year is about to change really makes no difference. Just continue to do u and jus like u do on March 17th (totally random day) With that said Happy New Year to you all and may all your dreams that are probably already in progress continue to PROgress.

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I play video games

I love my xbox hell I even named her Xcenia I'll play it all day those are the types of games I like to play....However when it comes to real life situations i don't play games life isn't a game this ish is serious. The problem wit people my age is we (as a people) love to play games....Ladies a dude try to get at u, u find him attractive and like certain things about him but somethings wrong this is usually the part when u say "he cool but he don't have no game" Das stupid, hell he need game for u already like him it jus don't make sense....if a girl tells me i have no game I'm gonna say "sure I do I happen to own a xbox and a wii u tryna play???" ladies and gentlemen we all talk about how there are no good guys and no good women thas not the case the problem is we play to many "Games" look if u like someone tell em and if they like u back at that point all games are over now yaw can work toward building a quality existence.....we're are all good people caught in fear of settling but who says ur settling cuz u talk to the first person that comes along. Maybe ur not settling maybe ur just winning before everyone else let's figure it out before it's to late

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My Bad Homies

Ok my bad blog fam, there isn't really much to say. It's not that I've forgotten about yaw, it's just that I didn't think people were really reading this so I fell back. But that goes against why I began blogging in the first place. It doesn't matter who reads it or who puts it to use, all that matters is that whoever may need it has it at there disposal. So with that said ThaBoss is back let's blog

Conform vs. Compromise

I think that relationships are a great thing, and when they are done properly they are a beautiful thing to watch and or be a part of. However, I think that most of us (reading this post) are still very young and experiencing love for the first time, or are looking for a chance to experience it for the first time. This in my opinion is why a lot of relationships lack some key components that make a relationship successful. We can argue all day on what we think the most important aspect of a relationship is but seeing as how this is my blog I'm gonna save you the trouble and tell you. Of course there are obvious things like honesty, trust, and respect. Those things should go without saying and if they don't then you need to re-evaluate what you're doing in the first place. The element in relationships that I think is overlooked is compromise. Which is not to be confused with conforming. For those who are confused about this, fear not because I'm going to do my best to explain it. I feel that some people think that if things are going bad in a relationship they can fix it by doing anything they can to make their mate feel nothing is wrong. For example, Dave hates that Jane goes through his phone, but instead of Dave telling Jane how much this bothers him, he goes along with it pretending that it doesn't bother him which allows Jane to think that everything is ok. Uhhhhh no, this is a perfect example of a person conforming to their mate to make things seem ok when obviously they are not. You can't pretend that everything is ok in your relationship because that's just what your relationship will be "pretend." This type
of things gets people hurt, and brings good relationships to an end. On the other hand if you give compromise an honest chance I believe that it gives your relationship validity and authenticity. Before I bring this to a close I feel I should some what explain what I mean when I say compromise. Usually in a compromising situation someone is doing something they generally don't want to do. What makes it different from conforming is that you should be able to tell your mate that although you don't want to do what they are asking, you are willing to go with it because you see that it clearly
means a great deal to them. This will more than likely start a cycle
of communication and honesty, that all but guarantees you a healthy relationship or at least a chance at one. So those of you that are in relationships ask yourself this question. Do you Compromise or Conform? Hopefully you can figure it out before it's too late. Until next time, stay classy

Who Got This???

"irreplaceable"- Beyonce, "Got her Own" - Jamie Foxx, "Miss Independent" - Ne-Yo........ How many of you ladies like these songs? It's cool raise your hand no ones watching. These songs are good and send a great message and if you agree with them and practice what these songs preach shoutout to you. As a young man I'm starting to notice that young women like what these songs are saying as long as it's convient. How you ask? Quick question ladies when is the last time you called your man and told him to get ready because your taking him out? Oh don't worry I'll wait. Now now now ladies hold on don't get me wrong this isn't about men being cheap and not wanting to pay this is more about women not at all wanting to compromise. And if you follow my blog you should know that IMO love is built on truth and compromise. Ladies if you have a man and yaw in a calander year go on let's say 60 dates please tell me why your man has to pay for all 60. Come on now what kind of love is that. And girls are ruthless when it comes to dates. They can know full well that you get paid on the 13th but hound you about going out on the 10th. Now let your man say "baby I'd love to go out but I don't get paid until Monday so we can go but your gonna have to pay" I bet 7 out of 10 times yaw will be at home watchin blackbuster movies on BET. Which brings me back to the songs I mentioned earlier, are you really practicing what those songs preach or does it just sound good. Now because I'm such a cool guy I'm gonna let you ladies in on a little secret. Now guys are simple creatures who usualy enjoy little things. if you were to ask a guy on one date and pay that guy is gonna take on endless dates and tell you not to even bring a purse because you've shown him a very rare form of loyalty. An even bigger secret is if you attempt to pay the male ego will usually not allow you to. Again we like little things so the fact that you offered is so flattering to us that it makes us want to pay more. Now guys are probably wondering "why would he tell them this" well guys because the reality is that even though I just gave very helpful information the combination of the female ego and their general love for Beyonce will not allow them to use it. So to answer the general question of "who got this" at the end of the day the man should pay 8.5/10 times but those are just numbers the real answer is found through compromise which you should have with the one you love.

P.S. I would like to persoanlly thank @Raethoven (follow her via Twitter) for blessing me with the creative inspiration to write this blog I hope it was effective for the question she asked

"What Women Want"

I'm a guy that happens to like romantic comedies aye aye aye don't judge me I love dry humor and those movies tend to carry a lot of it. That's neither here nor there the point is I was watching a good one the other day "What Women Want" and it got me thinking. That friends is a quality question. Of course I could just easily make a blog and ask the simple question of what women actually want, but you and I both know I'm gonna get a bunch of perfect cliché' answers and that's no fun. I imagine I would receive a bunch of young ladies telling me they want a man that's educated, good job prospects, no kids great teeth, gives good head, has his own place, can cook, holds you late at night, nice car, and doesn't play Xbox. HAHAHA ::Fabe Laugh:: ladies there are two problems with this first of all more than likely this guy doesn't exist, and second that isn't what you really want it may be what you tell people but is it really what you want? Here's the reality, there are lot of things women want but they usually don't want them all at once. And most the time the guy you actually talk to is worlds away from your "ideal" guy. Realistically women want a lot of the something’s guys want mainly good sex. It's a kind of a known fact. It's super easy for a girl to say I'm looking for "Mr. Right" because the whole time she's looking she is getting sexual favors from 1-3 guys. Where women win is they keep this ish PRIVATE they will have you thinking they are going through the drought 6. Righttttttt here's my personal opinion pretty girls never go through droughts because they are pretty and can usually have any guy they want. Ugly girls (or should I say looks deficient) girls don't go through droughts because what they lack in looks they usually make up for in the bed/hotel room. All the while these girls are looking for "Mr. Right" who they really have no interest in, and why should they looking for him and having tons of fun is easier less stressful and just more fun. So to answer the question "what do women want" the real answer is I don't know the plus side to that is they don't either. Think about it lol

P.S. This isn't all women there are people that wanna settle down (for the time being) and some that already have if you’re one of them hey enjoy it. There are also women that go through droughts as a personal choice and that's fine too.

P.S.S. Don't worry ladies "what men want" is on the way

Its Not That Hard

If you follow my blog and you're a girl you should be pissed I've been very tough on the young women of my generation and no one has said anything well this blog will not follow suit. This time it's about the fellas, and fellas we gotta do better. As a species we have really got to stop cheating. Now if your one of those guys that just read that and said "man this dude gay he a punk" then you need to grow up and pay attention because ten times outta nine I'm talking to you. It's 2010 and I know that these days in our society the more women you have the cooler you are. And that's fine if you are single I urge you to have all the protected sex you can, hey if she says yes have a ball. Single guys with alot of girls is not a problem. It's guys that commit themselves to young women and are bussin down the first chik they see the first chance they get that's the problem. Fellas it is not cool breaking a womans heart I don't care what the hottest rapper says. It does not make you anymore of a man because you are in a committed relationship and you have other girls on the side. Bruhs it's 2010 girls are so afraid of being hurt that most girls will let you just crash without commitment because they know you're gonna cheat. It's sad but true, but thats not good enough you need her to commit so of course you assure her that your in this foreal and she has nothing to worry about. Then of course you've got this girl at home and you're out breaking her heart every chance you get. What's worse is with all the cheating you do you find a way to justify it but if you find your girl with so much as a new guys number you're ready go upside her head. Seriously where is the logic in that. Look guys were young and I'm not saying you have to start looking for a wife but we are getting older and I say if you're gonna commit to a young lady even if it's a small commitment be a man and stick to it. I'm my opinion as cool as you think it is to go behind your girl back it's way cooler if you have a girl and your approached and you say "I'm flattered but I'm in a committed relationship" you are way cooler and you can take that to the bank.

Losing Faith

I'm losing faith in women. (Hold it right there if u in anyway think my first sentence has anything to do wit me not being attracted to women please exit my blog and jump off the nearest cliff) Ive never been a womanizer or a guy that had hoes it's jus not in my make up. I grew up with a dad that tought me that I didn't own a woman and that women were to be treated with the upmost respect pops would say "son no matter what, u treat women the way I treat ur mother, u don't see me cussing at her and disrespecting her, so don't u do it." For 22 years I've kept that tip in the back of my head because it seemed right. As I get older I'm starting to wonder if pops was right. Maybe thas how women were originally supposed treated but history shows that times can and usually do change. So am I stuck in the past thinking that women want to b treated like queens. Now of course any woman that reads this will be quick to comment and say "no ur right i wanna be treated like a queen and I wanna be respected" of course u do I mean who wouldn't say that but do ur actions match ur quick judgment more than likely not. How many of you stay with the guy u know is doggin u and consistantly treats u like trash cuz he got money, cuz the sex is amazing, cuz he's so fine, or my fav cuz u just love him so much. If u do anyone of those things please think twice before u comment on my blog. It's u women that are making me question my faith in women. Ladies if the need to be loved overshadows the love u have for urself then drop out of the race cuz uve lost. This blog isn't about me being upset about my love life or about me tryin to be this new mean guy that caught a recent bad break. This is about women picking guys that don't treat them right and when they finally leave makin the next guy pay for all the bad ish that previously happen to her. This blog is about women who want the guy wit all the game,money, and attituted. Here's my question if u want thy type of guy but there aren't many yet uve lucked up and found one don't u ever wonder who else has him??? Hmmmmmmmmmmm that would make me wonder but hey I'm just sayin. Yea in losing faith in women but I sure hope I meet someone who can restore that faith and make me believe what my dads been teaching me all my life. I may already know her but will out paths cross ::shrugs:: I'm not sure but if I meet her yaw will know.

P.S. There are still good men and women out here these are broad and general statements so please keep that in mind should u decided to comment